Lose to Win

“Lose to Win” by Fantasia Barrino from the album Side Effects of You that was released in the year of 2013.




Lose to Win by Fantasia Barrino is one of my favorite and most powerful songs she has ever written. This songs tell you about the way women lose their self dealing with a man. Not only dealing with a man but dealing with life within itself such as people losing homes , jobs , loved ones, their self esteem and whatever life throws at them. Sometimes you have to lose yourself in order for a great blessing to come. In the process of losing your self and everything else around you ,you notice who’s there for you and who is not. Sometimes it takes to hit a bump in the road just so you can be at peace again. Sometimes in the process of hitting this bump and wrecking your car you lose yourself. You have to learn how to pick up the pieces and learn to love yourself all over again. Fantasia states “ Never felt so ugly, Pretending that he loves me” meaning that the man she thought that loved her made her feel as if she was less than a woman. She knew that deep down inside that he loved her at one point or at least she thought he did. The love begin to fade away once he started getting the sexual things he wanted, gifts , or money , which was the reason of him seeking after her from the very beginning . Many women has been in the same predicament Fantasia has been in or even close to where she was and she’s trying to warn them before the storm decide to arrive and wash everything away. When you love a man and a man doesn't love you back it tears you apart , from the inside out , you let yourself go and feel like you're not worth more than anything but a pile of dog poo. It could be a man that you're in a relationship with , your father or a male that meant something very special to you. Fantasia continues on and says “ Now I'm sick and tired of , You, just taken right off , Know when I forgive you” meaning every time she forgives an individual person in her life or a situation that occurred it comes right back up but hits her ten times harder. Fantasia goes through many of hurts and she’s human like everyone else and she is very much human and when she loves she loves hard not for the appearance or how much that person has but she “loved you for your inner, inner, inner”. It’s a lot of things that need to take a step back out of her life and others “But you won't dare, 'cause you're too scared” , explains how something that she knows and people know can eat them alive won't change anything about it , because they're afraid of the outcome of it all without that person or thing non-existent. Even “If it makes you cry, cry, cry And all you do is fight, Can't get no sleep at night? Sometimes you gotta lose to win again. That's the only way in life to ever survive through the rough times that people and herself go through. Its a disciplinary action that you have placed on yourself and your emotions. Your emotions feel like they're in the ring fighting against the situation that you're going through. the blood , sweat , and tears represent the crying at night . the matt that you're fighting on represent the sleepless night that she has occurred. but every brick that was thrown at her she took it and stood on it just to prove that you “Needed someone so bad? To make it last does not always exist and you can “Lose , To win again.